From: vissidarte@aol.com (VissiDarte)
re: What do you want from a lap dance

sirkay@paranoia.com wrote:

>I suppose there are a group of people that regard lap dancing as a
>purely physical interaction and judge its quality by how easily they
>"get off" but to me that's not all there is to it at all. I think that
>a good lap dance is close to an interactive art form where both sides
>of the arrangement are working to create a form of excitement. That
>obviously usually has a physical component but to be good, it must
>have more than that.

I was discussing this question with a favorite, but soon to be
retired, lapdancer just yesterday. Of course she was grinding away
at the time and perhaps this clouded my thinking. 

I was telling her how I was in the midst of a delicate slide away 
from my ATF in favor of a new girl. Now what had captivated me in
the first place was NOT the physical aspect of lapdancing with my
ATF. I was simply in awe of her beauty and grace and the actual
lapdance did not matter. Or so I thought. 

Months passed happily with my ATF. Our lapdances mainly consisted of
chatting about this or that. We went out for drinks and dinner all the
time and to me it was being with her outside the club that mattered
- I considered the lapdance as just a financial nuisance.

Then a sweet young thing started at the club. I gave her a whirl. 
She gave me a whirl. I was astounded. I replayed what happened
over and over again. " Was that for real ??"  Yeah it was fake sex  
- but eager, sweaty, exhausting, accomadating and varied fake sex. A 
couple of days later I returned to doublecheck. Her lapdancing was 
even hotter.

The lapdancer I discussed this with last nite provided the description
- I had found a "toy". She said that she herself had been such a "toy"
a few months back but found the work too demanding and so had cooled
her routine.
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I should have more to say - but everything is still in progress and I
don't know where I'm going to end up  ( besides at the ATM machine ). 
Yeah my ATF found out about the new girl. She even tried to heat up her
lapdance act with me. And I took the new girl out to dinner, we chatted
about this and that ...